46: Marla Mattenson and Julian Colker - Technology and its role in relationships

On Episode 46, Marla Mattenson returns with her partner Julian Colker who work together to coach couples in their relationships including how to use technology mindfully.Some of the questions I ask:How to deal with devices and how they can potentially create rough spots when it comes to our intimate relationships [2.28]Why a pre-planned advance agreements between a couple is important to set each other up for success [5:07]How technology can be used to amplify the positive in your relationship [7:55]Ways that technology can make things simple for you and your partner[13:29]How much is too much communication via text message? [18:48]What are some suggestions for those who feel they can’t commit to a simple or disciplined technology use plan? [24:13]Upcoming in person workshop Marla and Julian have about touch [28:38]What you’ll learn:Technology is a tool which can add value to your relationship and also take away from it [2:48]Pre planned advance agreements about technology between yourself and your partner [3:49]Close the gap of misinterpretation that can potentially happen when communicating through devices [5:39]Humans are now getting Dopamine and Serotonin hits which cause us to bond with our technology instead of bonding with our partner or other humans [7:30]How to use technology in a way to connect deeper with your partner’s love language [8:40]Ways to set intention about wanting to grow with your partner [10:32]How sharing your calendar with your partner so they are aware of the times you are busy and free so they can plan things around your schedule [11:31]Use technology to keep track of things your partner likes on the phone [12:53]Starting your morning routine to engage a passionate relationship that doesn’t prioritise a technology first [14:48]Setting boundaries around technology use in your family [15:26]How to creatively communicate using technology [17:16]Ways to have an intentional digital detox [21:45]Have the belief that it’s possible to be disconnected from your phone [24:48]Ways to apply technology in a way to uplift and advance your life and relationship [25:30]What’s a thought each of you would leave about technology in relationships? [31:21]Resources:Apps: Love Nudge - talks about the 5 love languages you can sign up with your partnerMarla Matteson & Julian Colker’s workshop: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.