Ep 7 | Are You Making Excuses for Your Toxic Relationship? 9 Excuses Debunked | Narcissistic Abuse Healing

*Top 5% in podcasts globally Hey Queens! Did Bob the abuser have a tough childhood? WELL, maybe...but so did a lot of people. They aren't all out there abusing others. There is no excuse for people treating you like crap. Period. Let's go ahead and look at some of the top excuses we make for toxic people and debunk those excuses.  I am Christy Jade, adoring wife, adoptive mama and narcissistic abuse survivor. I now help other women who have gone through abuse (or are going through it) find confidence, power and peace. Want the BEST and quickest pick me up?! My 4 MINUTE meditation: https://christyjade.ck.page/insider Join me and other like-minded women on my free private Facebook Group Page at: https://bit.ly/ChristyJade --------- GRAB $20 off your first 60 minute coaching call with me: https://bit.ly/FIRSTCOACHINGCALL   Have trouble setting boundaries in your life? Grab my E-Course here: https://christyjade.podia.com/boundariescourse   And if you just wanna peek around and find out more about me and my work..check out my website! It's FUN AND SPARKLY ;)  https://www.christyjade.com/   Want to drop me a line or have a question? Email me anytime! [email protected]   Let's connect on social media! My Instagram My TikTok ---------TRANSCRIPT---------- Speaker 1: (00:00)In today's episode, we are going to talk about all the excuses that we give abusers. I've been there, I've done it. My clients have done it. You are listening here. If you have been the victim of abuse, I'm sure you have given your abuser excuses, you've excused them in your mind to yourself, maybe to other people. And we're here today to talk about what those excuses can look like and let's go ahead and debunk 'em cuz nobody's got time for that. She yet. Speaker 1: (00:35)Hey friends, welcome to the but still She Thrives podcast. I'm Christy Jade, adoring wife, adoptive mama, empowerment coach and queen of helping women who have gone through abuse, turn their lives around and start thriving. I know you are sick of feeling not good enough, questioning your decisions, not knowing how to say no, and the stress is still in your body and in your life. You're looking for more joy and just some freaking peace. You wanna feel confident, take your power back and run your life your way. So if you're ready to go from surviving to thriving, grab that venti mocha and let's dig in. Do you need help leaving or help healing from an abusive situation? I got you. I wanna help you. That is what I am here for. It is my specialty and I am giving $20 off your first call for a limited time. Um, it's empowerment coaching call 60 minutes and then we can go from there and you can sign up over@ bitlybt.ly/firstcoachingcall. I would love to help you. Speaker 1: (01:44)So here are the excuses we give abusers. Number one, he had a hard life, he had a rough childhood, whatever. Guess what guys? A lot of people go through a lot of stuff in this world and they're not all out there abusing others. It's unacceptable. It isn't okay no matter what you have been through. It is not an excuse. Number two, it was my fault. I, I got him mad. Okay? No you didn't. You might have said something that he had an emotional response to, but guess what? He gets to control what he does without emotional response. If he is out of control and can't do that, he should seek help and not be in a relationship. It is never your fault. You cannot cause someone else to do something. People need to take accountability for their own actions. Never an excuse. Number three, they apologize. Speaker 1: (02:37)They said it wouldn't ever happen again. They promised newsflash, this is part of the cycle of abuse from the last episode. It is on repeat and it will happen again and most likely it will get worse. Number four, it doesn't happen all the time. Once is enough, it should not not happen more than one time. It shouldn't happen at all one time. But if it happens one time, you should get out. It usually, like I just